It sounds like you dont even know this guy well enough to answer that question but I could be wrong. It was actually causing more of a rift than bringing us together. Do you think that is too draining too. Did everything in my power to support him, whether it be financial, emotional, etc. You should take all of the above advice to heart and follow it just in case, so you can make a smooth transition should it ever be necessary. To them, everyone is either TBM, hasn't learned the truth yet, or has some kind of personal failing laziness, desire to sin, allowed themself to be deceived by satan, etc.
It seems like a minor point, but I have noticed that every Mormon girl who disobeys the Mormon direction to avoid coffee has something majorly wrong with her. I know that when we have children I will be doing most of the work. When I was a teen, my first boyfriend was a convert and people would comment on that instead of how nice he was to me. It's easy to be blind to deal-breaking faults when you are young and in love. I explained to her that from my perspective, if a religious person does something good, you can't trust them because they're doing it for the wrong reasons: When an atheist does something good, you know they're not doing it for any reason other than to help someone else. Instructions can be found here: Posted by Your Doctor's Wife at 2: September 6, at 3: Marianne April 28, at 8: Anonymous September 21, at Anonymous October 19, at 9: Anonymous May 3, at 5: Anonymous November 24, at 2: Anonymous January 13, at 8: A must-read every morning.
I'm a doctors wife, my husband is a speciality physician. I am just starting to get a little panicky and upset about this the more I think about it. This man basically tells you in a simple way within 6 minutes. Anything she learned about mormonsim, she wanted to learn on her own. I think a lot of what you say here really rings true, especially the part about the Date Night. This is legitimately how it is for most dudes in Mormondumb. All of which will remind her that she wants you to convert so you can be together for eternity. This always seemed terribly wrong to me. Propagandists in the media throw around the word patriarchy as if it is synonymous with anything male.
Trust your instincts and your spiritual promptings. Topics like race and polygamy have been "adequately" explained away, so I don't think we'd get anywhere discussing those things. I ran across your post out of desperation. Having no expectations and being flexible is very important. It seems like mormons in particular are even more crazy than the majority of crazy religious people, and the manipulation and treatment of people who wish to think for themselves and challenge their beliefs is really frightening. Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be.