Some Mormon girls succumb to worldly laziness. No one could compare to the man I married. You will have to bring her down to reality. Her Religion is more important than you will ever be Her Religion comes first and deep down, she will come to hate you for not accepting joining her religion. He will not be permitted to bless the child in front of the ward, for instance, so you will have to choose to forego that ritual or find someone else to stand in for the father, which he may not be comfortable with. RUN like the wind. December 10, at 7: December 10, at December 11, at 6: December 20, at 6: December 10, at 2: December 14, at March 1, at March 8, at 1: March 7, at December 10, at 8: Having dealt with a similar issue all of last week I have a couple things to say. I get it; I just don't buy into it. If this happens, it might click something in her mind that says that what she experienced was pleasurable and she would like to have it again. There were times I asked him if he was seeing someone else and both times he answered no.
He was home alone on his one day off while I took off with our kids to visit family states away. They are always dressed in decent clothing, and the same is expected of their date. Work on myself, not him. Thank you for this web site blog-I have enjoyed reading these similiar experiences of ladies married to physicians or soon to be physicians. He may never come out and say it, but if you mention marriage outside of the church and he's OK with it, you have a slight chance of being happily married to her and not being mormon. In order for him to survive his residency much less thrive in itthe hospital has to come first, he has to come second, and I come in at third place. No nagging, no emotional neediness, etc. And you are right about people telling you that you are lucky that you married a doctor and should not complain. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. Is this a red flag or are we both just being stubborn.
Anyone who's a decent human being should be able to know right from wrong and act accordingly. Don't expect a traditional marriage I am sorry for your story. Pants-to-Church Sunday left me a bit bruised. It has just made me realize that these formulas a lot of us Mormons learn growing up about how to have a happy marriage are, well, crap. The woman provides advice and counsel but doesn't preside. A Mormon wife will also want to bring the kids along, and that should be discussed and decided before marriage and before kids. And sometimes I think we equate easiness with happiness. There is no such thing as a perfect Mormon family- regardless of whether the parents are sealed or not.
No walking your daughter down the aisle, no giving your daughter away at the alter, nothing but you standing outside the temple waiting till it's over. In other words, eternal marriage really is worth it, I think. Wish I knew ways on how to cope with being a girlfriend to a doctor. Its always been I who is being tested for patience,loyalty and trusting and trying to adjust with his unpredictable time schedule. Your spouse can be involved with anything that does not require a scheduled time. We have been married 16 years and we got married during the week off in between his first and second year of medical school.